The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule in swinging "No means No" and anyone has the right to say it. Improper handling of a situation, can lead to a lot of hurt or bad feelings. In swinger life style every one is supposed to be aware of this rule.A simple "No, thank you"should be enough. no explanations no whys ?.

Try to be friendly with other swingers

You don't have to be friendly on ly with the swingers you're interested in, be nice and polite to everyone.

Be Courteous

Treat others as you want to be treated , kindness, thoughfulness, understanding and sensitivity that's what you have to give if that is what you want to receive , remember that swinger life style is about recipricity.

Be Clean and Fresh

Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or unfresh breath.

 

Respect Others

Not all situations are for all people. Stay alert to your partner and others to be comfortable and relaxed. Try to enjoy everything and everyone but, if things are not going the way you want remain polite and courteous and try to move on.

Don't Be Pushy

Every swinger has the right to choose so , you need to learn how to handle negatives. If you want to swing with somebody , go ahead and politely invite them. Once again , every swinger has the right to say no. Don't forget that.

Do Only What You Consider Fun

Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

 

Practice Safe Sex

It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases the use of condoms should not offend anybody.

 

Say Thanks

The social courtesy of a 'Thank-You Note' or phone call to someone whose hospitality you enjoyed means a lot to most people, and they will surely remember you when planning their next event.

 

Respond To Invitations

RSVP means please reply to the invitation. The most frustrating part of hosting, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond, Good etiquette and good social courtesy require you respond.

 

Don't Arrive Empty Handed

When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring.

 

Be Prepared

Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc.

 

Alcohol and Drugs

Most do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. A few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you.

 

Be Good Hosts

When you have people coming to your home, put clean sheets on the beds; keep plenty of clean washcloths and towels available. Show your guests through the house.

 

Responding To Ads

A first letter should include a brief description of yourselves, where you saw the ad, your ad number and your social and sexual interests. An SASE should be included with your original reply as many couples receive a large number of replies which can be costly to reply to. All replies to an ad should be answered in two weeks even if it is a No.

 

Above All Enjoy Yourself

Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude. You are there to have the best of times and to share the uninhibited enjoyment with those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other swingers. You'll find them eager to welcome you.

Posted by Me on 20-12-2006 22:20:57 | Permalink | Comments

Finding the perfect relationship is tough. You have tried everything including common places like the grocery store, blind dates, the coffee houses, social gatherings and the and book stores. And notheing seems to work for you.

People hear or read many successful stories online or from friends on adult sex personals dating online. Online adult dating personals have been featured on TV and the magazines as a revolution that is helping single adults or divorced adults find love. Now, people are always hesitant to either give it a try or not. But, how should you start online dating without the frustration of dealing with something new?

The sooner the better

Please don't be afraid to jump right in. You can't realy make mistakes or embarrassing acts online. No one is going to know who you are unless you tell them directly. Anonymity can be a very powerful tool that should be abused but wisely used can allow you to meet lots of new adult singles in online adult sex dating.

To jump right into online adult sex dating sites click here or go to your favorite search engine and type for adult dating personals. You will come up with many possibilities. One of the largest dating sites Iwantu.com. There are many other good date sites online. Just visit the site to see if you like it and you are comfortable with the dating site and all it's adult sex dating tools, like email, chat, video chat, forums.

Once enter the dating site you would like to try go and check out some of the adult profiles. Almost all the adult dating sites allow you to search for sex personals free. make sure to narrow your search to an specific city or zipcode and choose the interests you want to find in your partner.

Go ahead, don't be afraid and register. Add your profile, and add a picture of yourself. Have fun

Posted by Me on 20-12-2006 22:17:26 | Permalink | Comments

Swinging FAQ # 1: What is swinging?

Swinger dating life style is an alternative lifestyle where one or more couples get together for sexual encounters with a partner or partner out of their own couple.

Swinging FAQ # 2: Who are a swinger couple?

A swinger couple is the couple that engages in recreational and social sex practices with other couples of consenting (of course) adults.It usually consists of a male/female relationship.

Swinging FAQ # 3.When did swinging begin?

Swinging begun back in the early '50's. In that time swingers were able to meet other couples through personal ads in the newspapers. Now there are clubs and organizations taking care of this sexual expression and the people who like it. Don't forget the internet , these days it's easier to find swinger couples on the web.

Swinging FAQ # 4. What are the benefits of being a swinger?

Benefits from swinging:

• Exploring sexuality and sensuality in new ways that are not allowed in the "normal" society.
• For bi-curious men and/or women it's a nice way to explore bisexuality without having to step into the gay or lesbian scene where they may feel uncomfortable , unwelcome or afraid of sexual transmitted deceases.
• Swinging is a controlled way to reject monogamy without hurting none of the parts in a couple .
• Swinger life style allows you to explore and expand your sexual interests.
• Swinging can reinforce a relationship and the commitment involved in the couple’s relationship.
• Being a swinger will let you to make new friends.

Swinging FAQ # 5 What is swinger life style?

A swinger life style is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle is simple is to give and receive pleasure.

Swinging FAQ # 6. What are the common types of swinger lifestyles?

They are:

• Soft Swinging: In this practice sexual activity is available but not necessary, couples may engage oral sex or masturbate one another.
• Closed Swinging: Couples use separate rooms so that partners of a marriage don't have eye contact each other's swinging. Usually the rooms all are in the same house
• Open Swinging: Everyone swings in the same room.

Swinging FAQ # 7. Do swingers have rules?

There are not a set of defined rules in becoming a swinger or going into swinger lifestyle.

It's strongly recommended to talk with your partner and agree about "how , what and when" , it means: how are you going to contact other swinger couples , what are you going to allow and what you won't during the first encounter and finally when are you going to start. Declare rules for you and stick to them , remember to be honest to each other swinging is about enjoying together.

Remember that swinging is to enhance a relationship no to replace a failed one.

Posted by Me on 20-12-2006 22:13:13 | Permalink | Comments

If you and your mate are swingers, you can go to lots of good quality sites and online swingers communities on the web. The Internet offers you infornation about swinger clubs near your city or state. You only need to be careful about how mauch money you want to spend in a membership. There are swingers sites and clubs that offer from free membership going through paid to VIP memberships.

Swingers couples who have just arrived to the lifestyle and are willling to try everything out, you must be aware that swinging may bring a lot of strain to your relationship. Swinger couples are suggested to look for a club that fits your needs and wants. If any doubt, talk and go through it TOGETHER. You can always ask a swinger club for deep and further information about its membership and benefits.

If any single male wants to go into swinger life style, can also search. Not all clubs welcome single male swingers so, it won't be as easy as for a swinger couple to find a club. This is since swinger life style is supposed to be for couples only. Yet swingers clubs have events where single women and men are allowed to attend.

Swingers can join a club for a small monthly memberships if they want to try the service (not in all swinger clubs but in many) and its features. They will also offer you events and events hosted by its members too. If you decide to join for one year it is usually less expensive than short memberships.

Posted by Me on 20-12-2006 22:11:10 | Permalink | Comments

Swinger life style is full of swinging and sexual activities, many of them are common at swinger parties, others are only very specific and organized events.

Bisexuality

In swinger life style bisexuality is more common between women than men but not every swinger woman would go into it. Bisexual men are not usually seen in the lifestyle and often this kind of practice will be frowned upon if not organized prior or moved to a separated area.

Couple to swinger couple

This is the essence of swinging. Usually it may start with one couple pairing the other, after swapping, probably both swinger couples will move staying close to each other, after a while they may move to threesomes or some group sex or orgies.

Extreme swinger culture

Spanking, sadomasochism, bondage, submission/domination and water sports are included in this activities.Even when uncommon amongst swingers, sometimes hosts decide these to be the theme for some swinger parties and they notify it prior to swinger party date.

Groups or Orgies

It is usually a group of four or more people in sexual interaction, in case of swinger lifestyle parties, they are two couples for most of the times but they may also be five or more swingers.

Threesomes

Threesomes are a good practice for new couples just stepping into swinger lifestyle. Many swinger couples still continue with threesomes even when they have been and are into full swinging. The level of interaction may vary during threesomes, in a male-female-male the female swinger will tend to be a little more passive most of the time but not necessarily.

Voyeurism

Voyeurism is when someone watches others having sex.This is very common in public swinging areas but not in private areas. And always remember to ask if there's no problem if you watch, just in case.

Posted by Me on 18-12-2006 23:24:50 | Permalink | Comments